Once one or both parties have decided to separate or divorce, perhaps after they have tried working on their marriage with a therapist or other professional, matters concerning a division of assets, support of their children and/or support of the other party, legal custody, co-parenting decisions and a parenting schedule need to be addressed.
These family decisions are best made out of the courtroom and in a non-adversarial forum. Mediation with a trained, certified mediator provides a safe space for parties to work through these issues.
It is often very difficult to agree on even the smallest things when the relationship between the parties has deteriorated to the point of separation or divorce. Making agreements on the bigger items concerning their assets, money and children can seem insurmountable.
Sometimes this frustration can lead folks unwittingly down the path of protracted litigation or hostile and adversarial negotiations. This may feel like their only choice because their relationship is so unhealthy. This is when mediation can really work well.
An added bonus with mediation is that there is no winner-loser mentality that usually accompanies the adversarial process and which can have a long-lasting, negative impact on the parties’ relationship going forward. The adversarial process, particularly litigation, usually leaves scars for years to come, creating a significant impediment to healthy co-parenting going forward.
“What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what live within us.”
– Henry David Thoreau